BEDA Day 11

Well, now I'm posting at 7am because I'm awake this early and I'm terrified of forgetting to post today. That's the polar opposite, haha.

I have a dentist appointment, an interview that I haven't been given time or place of, and a road trip to and from Atlanta with Madeleine today. It's going to be a busy day, but hopefully I'll come out of it with clean teeth, a job, and a new friend! :)

In other news, my stomach has been hurting randomly since yesterday. Like right now, I'm hunched over in pain. I'm really hoping that it'll be fine for my dentist appointment because it would just be awkward if I told them to stop because my stomach hurts too much. Wish me luck!

I know that this post is boring because I haven't done anything today but I have a back up! An acquaintance of mine, Fredric, expressed interest in a rant that I had once about what guys do and what they should do, so I think I can at least hit a few high points in the blog right now, but let me preface this with the fact that I know not all boys are like this. I know some great guys that do fine without ever showing one of these characteristics to me, and when that happens it's very refreshing.

You see, bloggies, I have this thing about guys. Unfortunately I'm the type to learn through experiencing so I've had a few too many bad experiences with boys. And right around February was when I finally said that I don't need or want a boy in my life romantically because they're just too much stress on me. I've come to find that they need so much or work hard to hurt me, and I'm not ready for that yet. So here we go!

Let's see, what boys do:
-Well there's always the basic lying, cheating, or avoiding a subject because they did wrong.
-They can be standoffish until they need something and then they give you attention.
-On the other side of the spectrum, they can smother you with attention and not give you space to breathe.
-I think in general, guys just feel like they need someone there. The rock, the mommy, call it what you will. They don't like to be alone because they'd rather have someone else take care of the mess.

That's just four things. I'm sure when I'm in a huge ranting mood I could think of more, but this is the rational side of me looking back on memories. Now for what boys should do:
-Instead of lying, cheating, or avoiding a subject, boys should be up front with issues because communication is one of the biggest problems in relationships. With me now especially, lying is a huge betrayal to me. Keeping something from me hurts, and it makes me feel like you don't trust me, so why would you lie to me? Cheating, well, that should be a given. I'm not a play thing that you can pick up whenever you feel like it and then toss away again when I'm not around or become boring. That's disrespectful and shows me you haven't gotten past the 'women are inferior' complex that men have in their brains. Avoiding a subject because you know you've done something wrong is childish. Man up and admit that you've done wrong right off the bat and I'm more likely to forgive you. Don't be a baby.
-With being standoffish, I've had experience. Guys refuse to say they need help, need someone, or really say that they care. Then they realize 'oh hey, I'd better give that girl attention for a little while so she'll stay around' and after a few days of attention they go back to mistreating/ignoring you. It's so confusing for girls when guys do this because we're not sure how real it is for the guy. Do they actually like us? Are we the weird ones for wanting consistency? And then the girl starts wondering if she's an over-analyzing, simpering little freak.
-Smothering. This is something fairly recent in my experience with guys. They like you too much. They want to always talk with you, check in, be by your side. They tell you that you're the only good part of their life. I'm sure you guys are saying 'well that's a fairy tale, a dream come true, right?' that's what I thought too. But you know what? Some times you do need space. You need to remember that you are two separate people that need to work properly on their own in order to work well together. So smothering is not the answer to all of these standoffish men.
-What should guys do about the last problem? GROW UP! Don't date a girl because you need order in your life. Get your own damn life together before trying to find someone. Don't let the girl be either the mommy of the relationship or the only thing that will make you happy. You've got to find a balance, you've got to know who you are. If you find that you're a complete dork and you like to stay in on the weekends, chances are there's a girl just like that. You might just find her one day. If you find that you like to party it up every night of the week, there's a girl for you. Find someone that you could live without, but you enjoy being around no matter what. That girl is worth your time. And once you get her, treat her well. Treat her like she's important without being overbearing or a pushover. Just, enjoy the time you have together.

I'm sorry if this got a little lecture-y, but it's what I feel. Again, this is not all girls' or boys' opinions, it's just what I've learned through experience and talking it over with a few friends.

I hope that everyone has a great day, and now I'm off to the dentist!

Current song - You Are the One - Skyway Flyer
Current cup of water - First cup of the day!